Lubrication
I recommend use of a lubricant to a lot of my patients. So often, in fact, that I’ve put together a sampler platter with various brands in several different categories.
Why would anyone need to try different types? Lube is lube is lube, right? WRONG!
This blog is going to discuss the different facets of lubrication, including when to use it, the different types, how to know which type is right for you, and how to use it. The things you never knew you needed to know.
What is lubrication?
Lubrication is a substance that reduces friction and allows for smooth movement. This is true in a motor, a door jam, or a woman’s vagina. During arousal, glands within the vagina secrete fluids that help lubricate and moisturize her vagina. A lot of factors can affect this process, including:
Hormonal changes (hello breastfeeding and menopause)
Aging
Cancer treatments
Medication
Various psychological factors that impact arousal
Lubrication, whether natural or artificial, helps reduce friction within the vaginal canal (or rectum) and makes penetration possible and more enjoyable.
When to use it?
The better question is, when WOULDN’T you use it?! If there is any non-enjoyable friction, then use some. There is NO shame in the use of an artificial lubrication. In fact, penetration in an area that is not well lubricated can cause tissue damage and irritation.
I always recommend use of an artificial lubrication during the postpartum period, especially if mama is nursing/pumping. The hormonal shift after delivery is no joke. Even if you are someone who did not need any lube before, it might just be time to give it a try.
Which one do I pick?
Did I convince you to at least give it a try? Good. Now, you may be saying, “Jen, how do I know which one to pick? There are sooooo many choices. I do not want to stand in that aisle at Wal-Mart and be judged. Water-based? Silicone-based? Oil-based? I’m so overwhelmed”. A quick Amazon search will give almost 10,000 results.
Let me help break it down for you. There are 3 main type: Water-based, oil-based, and silicone-based. Click here for a lube handout.
Helpful tips:
If you’re going to use a condom… Avoid oil-based lube AT ALL COSTS. The oil will break down the latex condom.
If you frequently get yeast infections... avoid lubricants with glycerin in them. These are typically the lubricants that are flavored or with warming effects.
If you deal with vaginal dryness often… Avoid “warming” lubricants. They contain glycerin and can dry out quickly. Silicone-based will be your best bet.
If you’re going to use a sex toy… Avoid silicone-based lubricants, as they can break down the toy’s rubber over time. Stick with water-based.
If you’re trying to conceive… Look for specific lube that says “sperm friendly” or “fertility friendly”. Some lubricants may have a negative impact on sperm motility.
If you will be in the water… Choose a silicone-based lubricant. Water-based products will rinse right away.
How to use?
Lay down a towel to prevent any potential staining.
Use lubricant as part of foreplay to boost arousal and involve both partners.
Be liberal when applying and apply to both the inside of your vagina and the penis or sex toy.
Reapply as needed.
Still not sure which one to choose? Stop by Mid-Missouri Pelvic Health. I’ve got TONS of free sample packets and would be happy to share. If you are having any pain with intimacy, check out Sexual Function and the Pelvic Floor to see if you need to see a pelvic floor physical therapist.
ENJOY!
P.S. You can thank me later 😉
To purchase lubrication through Amazon (affiliate link)...
Good Clean Love - Almost Naked (water-based): https://amzn.to/3YFTxfu
Uberlube (silicone-based): https://amzn.to/3IfpVQQ
